Dear Abby: I’m a 13 year old guy. Live in California. I have an eighth grade girl that I have a crush on. The last time I saw her was three years ago at a musical theater show we were both in. When she handed me the “Do you like me?” note, she was convinced that she liked me. Sadly I declined.
I wrote a really cool love wrap for her. Her problem is, she’s been on TV shows and commercials in Los Angeles, and she might think she’s too good for me right now. How should I approach her? Should she show her my rap? — Grinding in San Diego
For crushes: approach her by telling her that you think she’s doing a great job on shows and commercials. Then tell her that she wrote something of hers for her and share it with her. This is a big compliment and she should appreciate it too. However, if she indicates that she thinks “it’s too good for you right now,” it’s very important to remember that just because someone feels that way doesn’t mean it’s true. important to (The showbiz adage was and still is true: “Be kind to those you meet on the way up. You’ll meet them on the way down.”)
Dear Abby: My nephew is 19 years old. I have co-parented him and his sister since he was 15 years old. He has some normal problems for his generation. What is unusual is his exaggerated sense that life is all about himself. If it doesn’t benefit him, he won’t do it. I have given him the structure, guidance and direction he seeks and he remains the same. His girlfriend blames him for his poor hygiene, but he doesn’t change.
Lately he has become withdrawn and reserved, and spends more time alone. He literally sleeps all day. Oh, he’s a compulsive liar, so I don’t know if what he says is true. He has depression issues and some trauma. Those signs are easy to find in him. What do you get if you know? — Indiana’s observant uncle
Dear Uncle: Has your nephew been treated for depression or trauma? It’s time to see your doctor to determine if you may be taking Please wait until the realization.
Dear Abby: My wife goes to lunch with male colleagues at least several times a week. When we have lunch together, we use a credit card, so I don’t know, but when I eat alone, I use my bank account. I’ve heard her go on breakfast dates by saying “you know where it is” or “a place near work” instead of saying the place.Is this common? — Suspicious in California
Dear Suspicious Person: You seem like a very suspicious spouse. It’s not uncommon for male and female colleagues to eat lunch together. “I know where you are” and “where you work” are expressions used by people going about their daily lives, not necessarily to obscure something bad. Is your wife keeping it a secret because she knows you’re going to give her her third degree otherwise?
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